Do you know someone who is a big liar? We reveal 11 ways to discover a liar.
According to the statistics, about 90% of the information we receive is based on the gestures of the person we are talking to. We unconsciously read the body language and, based on the tone of one’s voice, we can sense their mood.
We are also able to make a more or less reliable conclusion on whether the person we are talking to is lying basing on their gesticulations.
We got acquainted with the works of Alan Pisa, Lilian Voice, and other well-known psychologists and chose 11 of the most common gesticulations of liars.
- Eyes wide open
Psychologists claim that liars cannot maintain eye contact for a long time. However, if a person consciously lies and tries to keep his/her facial expression at all costs, he/she will try to look at the other speaker directly in the eyes to create an atmosphere of trust.
A liar gives a high tension to the eyes, which is due to the fact that it’s overwhelming for them to move their eyes. That’s why liars often keep their eyes wide open and even tend to stare.
- They straighten their shoulders and raise their chin
If one suddenly corrects their posture or straightens their shoulders while telling something, this indicates their inner uncertainty of spoken words. The same applies to their head position: by lifting the chin, a person subconsciously tries to stress the importance of their words and display authority.
- Licking or biting their lips
The cops call this the”cottonmouth” effect. A person who has to lie, from time to time, is more likely to have a dry mouth.
It is easy to explain: the autonomous nervous system when under stress, reduces the secretion of saliva. If you offer a glass of water to this person, they will probably be taking big sips.
- Restricted movement
It is known that nervous movements or playing with small items with your hands often indicate that a person is trying to hide something. And vice versa: conscious that he/she is lying, one can consciously limit their movement, trying to stay calm. This often seems unnatural and can be a huge indicator that the person is lying to you.
- Pointing the index finger
Finger pointing is considered one of the most aggressive gestures. If a man answers the question in such a way, he tries to take the blame away from himself, acting righteously.
This is a sign of anger and firm defense – a liar convinces their prosecutor that they are wrong.
- Tilting the head
Charles Darwin has already noticed that people, like animals, leaned their heads to the side when they suddenly and very interested in something.
When trying to find an answer to an unpleasant question, a person stalls and reflects on the actions of the other speaker in order to conceal their true intentions.
The one who asked the question subconsciously sees this gesture and becomes more aware that they are being lied to.
- They pull their collar and scratch their neck
The neck is one of the most exposed parts of our body. Aware of the danger, many begin to pull the collar especially if it is tight and difficult to breathe.
Such a gesture is explained by a theory that liars have a desire to rid themselves of lies and feel relaxed again.
A common gesture is also neck scratching. Usually, it looks as though this person is thinking about your question. Translated gesture literally means: “I’m not sure I agree with you”.
- Covering sensitive parts of the body
Chest, stomach, intimate parts – these are the parts of the body that a person is trying to hide when they feel anxiety.
For such a gesture there is a physiological explanation: when the autonomous system is under stress (and lying is always stressful), it gives a signal that contracts the abdominal muscles, which can cause even painful cramps.
- Holding on to solid objects
The one who is lying unconsciously feels vulnerable and tries to strengthen his position in all possible ways, including physically.
They can hold onto the wall, table, chair or any other solid surface because it helps them to feel safe.
Such behavior is quite natural: we learn this from our childhood – in order to avoid a dangerous situation, such as standing near an edge, we need to hold on to something.
- Beautification attempts
Such behavior is a characteristic of women primarily: they fix their hair, remove non-existent mascara smudges from the corners of their eye or curl the hair with their finger. This helps them to achieve inner peace and distract thoughts from external threats.
- Slight turn from the other speaker to the side
When we talk to someone, we can not look someone directly in the face, even though we are standing faced towards them. It says that we are open to communication.
If the person is slightly turned to the side, they unconsciously try to remove the object that creates anxiety for them from the field of vision. that creates anxiety for him.
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Liars often have a coarse voice and tend to mumble. If the voice is rough, more like it is for us to believe what that person is saying. A person who wants to tell a lie consciously or unconsciously lowers the tone of their voice. It is a compensation: a lie is compensated for by a hard, deep tone.
A liar will skip the end of phrases or begin to speak more quietly. The reason for that is the mechanics of breathing: the need to deceive excites a person, they get shortness of breath and they simply can’t get enough air to speak clearly and decisively.
Do you have your own ways to determine if someone is lying to you or telling the truth?