Both of them lived in the same city, and to make things worse his parents and friends knew he was in a relationship with two women.
British woman, Catherine Garod, 38, spent three and a half years with her fiance, convinced that he was her soulmate, unaware that she would be pulled in a trap of lies.
The two met through Plenty of Fish’s dating page and as she says he was very interested in a serious relationship.
An unknown woman’s call
But their relationship after that was the same. As soon as Catherine got a little too close and more attached to him, he would pull back and act cool. He promised he would make all her dreams come true, but none of that actually happened.
They even looked at the houses for 6 months to start living together, but in the end, they did not take one because he found flaws in each house.
The manipulation continued, and Catherine tried several times to break up, but in those moments he would again become caring, loving, saying that he “cannot imagine life without her.”
This behavior continued until an unknown woman called her in September. Then the truth was revealed!
Who is the first and who is the second woman? It turns out that her sweetheart has been living a double life with another woman for over two years in the same city. His deception was exposed because of the same greeting card he sent to both.
The woman who called her found on his phone messages that he had exchanged with Catherine.
The next day, she also found correspondence on Facebook:
“When she found out about me, she thought that I was his lover, someone he was having an affair with,” Catherine told Metro.co.uk.
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“But when she looked at my profile, she realized that the two of us had been together for a long time. Then she sent me a picture of a greeting card telling her how much she loved her. She wanted to reassure me that she didn’t know about me. Now she believed I was “the first” girl and that she was the lover, but I told her I didn’t think so.
Master of touching messages
“He was great at writing such heartfelt cards. He wrote them for anniversaries, birthdays, and Christmas. When Catherine saw the one he sent to another girl, she realized that that card was the same as the one she had received while he was ” on a business trip “.
She realized that when he was on vacation with her, he also told the other one that he was on a business trip.
“Dear” (name as needed), it said in the postcard, “I’m going to miss you so much and can’t wait to hug and kiss you when I get back. I may be on the other side of the world, but I’ll think of you all the time and you’ll be in my dreams. “
In less than an hour since they spoke on the phone, they both headed to his parents’ house where an even bigger surprise awaited them. Both his family and friends knew all about his double life.
“I don’t know if they knew all the time, but they knew and didn’t tell any of us.
I haven’t seen his parents in a while and I live a 45-minute drive from them, and she’s just around the corner. Apparently she was the one who spent most of her time with his parents and his friends. But I don’t understand how is that moral, I always thought they were decent people.
Every move was calculated
They were both in shock, talking for hours sharing pieces of the false story they lived in.
“We realized that his every move was planned, every emotion fake, and what we believed was love was just his need to govern our lives.”
“We were both terrified. I returned to my empty home, thinking if I missed anything. I was convinced he was here, I had nightmares. My whole reality was gone. I realized that he violated my mind and my body. Sleeping with someone who is not the man he is pretending to be is physical violence. “
Double Life – Domestic Violence?
“I didn’t know who he was, he was playing someone else, and that’s awful. You start to question your whole life because nothing was real. Catherine reported her ex to the police.
The answer was that a double life cannot be legally regarded as coercive control. Legally powerless, Catherine believes there are more victims like her. She launched the ‘He Controlled Both of Us’ website, on which victims can contact and remain anonymous if they wish.